You Don’t Need to Self-Hate to Be Great

Being self-critical can cause more harm than good — here’s what to do instead.

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The inverted-U: Too much of most things = net bad for performance

Types of Self-Criticality

Comparative — comparing ourself to others

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Internalized — innate sense of inferiority

Origins of Self-Criticality

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The Pros of Personal Accountability

The Cons of Self-Criticality

Hold Yourself Accountable with Compassion

1. Reframe Your Language

2. Highlight What You Did Well — not just what you did poorly

3. Disassociate From Results

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4. Focus on What You Can Control

5. Lead with Compassion

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Human.
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This is what life looks like when you have big dreams.

6. Compare Yourself to Who You Were Yesterday — not others

Final Thoughts

Written by

#Founder of @CollCampus and @LemonadeStandCC. @Future_Squared #Podcast host. #Author of #TimeRich and Employee to #Entrepreneur. Visit: steveglaveski.com #MEL

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