Can You Be Too Independent?

The downsides of being a proverbial lone wolf.

Independence is a virtue — at least, that’s what we’re led to believe.

Ideally, we raise children to become self-sufficient and less dependent on others as adults when it comes to their affairs and well-being.

Many spiritual and philosophical doctrines — such as Buddhism or Stoicism, teach us that by genuinely accepting ourselves, instead of using public opinion as a validator of our own worth, we can stand on our own and live a more aligned life.

Roman philosopher Seneca wrote — and I’m paraphrasing here — that the best indication of a well-ordered mind is the ability to linger in one place in one’s own company for extended periods of time.

But, is there such a thing as being too independent?

On Being a Lone Wolf

I’m someone who identifies as hyper-independent, so much so that my friends sometimes refer to me as a lone wolf.

What do I mean by hyper-independent?

I can go multiple days and weeks without face-to-face human interaction.

I can take care of most of your affairs, whether domestic or business-related, alone.